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Focus on what you can control

Improving Systems and Habits

Scott Miker is the author of several books that describe how to use systems and habits to improve.  This free blog provides articles that to help understand the principles related to building systems.  

Focus on what you can control

Scott Miker

There are many things in life that we have no control over. In those instances it is easy to feel as though we don’t have control over anything.

But that isn’t the case. We have a great deal of control over the direction our life takes. We make conscious and subconscious decisions that impact the path we take.

But because so much of life is beyond our control, it can be easy to give up and play the victim. We can easily find things to point to that can justify our opinion.

If we can break away from that thinking, though, the world suddenly changes. Instead of a harsh environment that is constantly impacting us, we become part of the world. We see how we fit in the big picture. We can understand that some things are within our control and some things are not.

Then we can put our focus solely on what we can control. If it is outside of your control then it doesn’t matter what we think of it or what we do. So our focus and energy is better spent on the things in life we have control over.

This will shift how we approach life. We will start to actively develop the path we take through life. We make changes when things aren’t going the way we want and we chase our dreams and accomplish our goals.

It doesn’t mean everything is easy. In fact, once we focus on what we can control, we then have to take the difficult next step of actually changing our thoughts and behaviors.

As you do this, you will start to realize that there is more within our control than most people realize. We always control our reaction to situations. Even when something happens and we have zero control over the situation, we still choose what we do about it.

Do we pity our self and play the victim? Do we get mad and feel it is unfair? Do we shut down and refuse to keep trying?

Or do we brush it off and get back up? Do we look at what we can do differently to create a different outcome next time? Do we accept responsibility for our situation and then work to improve that situation?

We all have the choice to take control over our life. There will still be areas outside of our control but those areas will shrink as we realize how much control we actually have.

Start to focus on what you can control and what you can control will grow. You will realize how powerful you are to develop your life in the way you desire. You will realize that the work necessary to achieve great things is within your grasp. Keep focusing on what you can control and taking steps to improve and you will find a much happier, more empowered existence.