What if you could design any life that you want? What if you could determine the various aspects of your life and wave a magic wand to have it turn into reality?
Most people would have success, happiness, strong relationships, and be well liked by those around them. They would be praised for their work ethic and intelligence but remain humble enough to take obstacles in stride and face reality when things get difficult.
While we don’t have a magic wand to wave, these elements are all achievable. But this typically won’t just happen by accident. In order to realize these, you have to be deliberate about designing your life. Then you have to make sure your actions follow the design.
I’ve worked at companies with a great company culture and companies with a poor culture. In the companies with a strong culture, there were deliberate systems and processes in place to improve the interrelationships within the company.
Many times we feel this happens by chance. We assume some companies just give their employees what they want so they are happy. But a strong culture is as much about accountability as it is about employee freedom or perks.
The key is that there has to be a series of systems designed to promote the behaviors and attitudes that the company values and applies various corrections whenever the behavior or attitude of an employee gets off track.
So if you want something in life, design the systems in order to achieve it. Don’t shy away from the challenging, difficult aspects because these are as much a part of it as the feelings of success once the system is running strong.
By doing this we can start to realize the incredible responsibility we have over who we are and what we do in life. We aren’t merely pawns who occasionally get hit with the success bug. We all control more of our lives than we realize.
Part of the reason that we don’t see the great control we have is because it is below our level of consciousness. It lies in the habits we formed, the mental models, structures we’ve created etc.
This all lies below our everyday awareness. But that doesn’t mean they are outside of our control. We can deliberately adjust these areas.
It takes specific steps to do so, but if we shift our mindset to one of becoming a systems designer, we can start to put in place the right structures, behaviors, mental models etc. which will then result in the events that demonstrate who we are.
If you are new to this type of thinking, start small by looking at very small, subtle aspects of your life and working hard to change them. Do it consistently, for a long period and suddenly you will realize that you have changed. Then you will start to unlock the power of the systems and habits approach to improvement and realize the great control you have over your life.