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Dark and unclear could be signs that you need to refocus

Improving Systems and Habits

Scott Miker is the author of several books that describe how to use systems and habits to improve.  This free blog provides articles that to help understand the principles related to building systems.  

Dark and unclear could be signs that you need to refocus

Scott Miker

We all go through periods where things are confusing.  We find ourselves stuck and don’t know what to do in order to get past some obstacle or problem in our lives.

These times are important because what we decide to do will have reverberations in other areas of our life.  But we also are usually full of anxiety and stress, which can cloud our thinking.

I have found that the worst thing to do is to react in a way where we succumb to our emotions and quit.  It could be that we decide to walk away from a major goal or lower our goal so that we can avoid the emotional stress associated with the current step.

But time and time again I have found that addressing the problem with a head-on approach is best.  This doesn’t mean that we shut off our strategic thinking and power through. 

It means that we shift our focus to be on getting past this obstacle in a way that leaves us better off.  It allows us to address this problem and see it for what it is.

Then we can devise the best approach.  Many times this will be to listen to our gut without falling prey to the fear emotions that are likely present.  It probably means doing something a little outside your comfort zone. 

But the more you do this and tackle these dark and unclear times in a positive way, the more confidence you will have the next time you are faced with a similar challenge. 

Conversely running away or quitting means that the next time you are in a similar position, you will gravitate to those strategies.  Then you will never be able to get past these stretch moments when we have to get outside of our comfort zone to grow and improve. 

But this isn’t easy.  There is a reason why many people simply look to relieve the stress, not overcome the challenge.  Relieving the stress without tackling the challenge can be easier but it also has more negative consequences down the road. 

We have to learn to slowly improve and see these challenging moments as a necessary part of the journey.  If we want to obtain what we don’t have we need to be able to do what we aren’t currently doing. 

Many times this comes after a problem surfaces with the way we are currently doing something.  These challenging times, while stressful, can present a unique way to keep improving, despite the fact that it might be painful initially. 

In these moments we are forming the habits and we can see behavioral patterns that clue us in to how we tend to act in these circumstances.  Therefore we need to make sure we are moving forward and doing whatever we can to improve.